Month: June 2025

Women often seek fulfillment outside themselves. When they do not find happiness in their partner, they may look for it elsewhere. This behavior aligns with the concept that some women expect men to supply emotional needs they do not fulfill themselves. This dynamic can lead to infidelity when the partner fails to meet those expectations.

I was out with a group of politicians in a bar one night when one of them started talking about how dirty politics is. He admitted he was constantly cheating on his wife. He said his opponent found out and threatened to use it against him. To handle this, he confessed all his infidelities to his wife.
 
Then he bragged about how many times he cheated and with whom. He said, “Everybody cheats.”
 
I looked at him and said I have never cheated on a girlfriend or my wife. He looked at me in disbelief, so I confirmed my point again. Then he asked how I managed that.
 
I asked him a series of questions:
 
Did you want your mother to cheat on your father?
 
Did you want your father to cheat on your mother?
 
Do you want your wife to cheat on you?
 
Do you want your daughter to cheat on her husband once married?
 
Do you want your daughter’s husband to cheat on her?
 
Do you want your son to cheat on his wife?
 
Do you want your son’s wife to cheat on him?
 
He answered “No” to all.
 
I told him, “It’s easy not to cheat. Just don’t do what you don’t want others to do.”
 
I also told him women love cheaters and married men because they are easy to blackmail afterward.

My sister is the quintessential feminist woman of the modern age. She had three children from three different men, divorcing them all while claiming that all the fathers were substance abusers. All her boyfriends had some form of drug addiction, cocaine, crack, alcohol, and pills. She lived in government housing while renting out one room at market value. She collected welfare and child support payments from three men while holding under the table jobs. She teaches her female peers how to use the courts to collect as much as possible.
 
Now that her kids have grown up, she bought a nice vacation home on the waterfront while keeping her apartment in the projects.
 
Where did she get the money?

By my mid 20s, I grew tired of hearing women’s stories about cheating, abusive, and substance abusing boyfriends. Meanwhile, I saw in my life and my friends’ lives that their girlfriends and wives were cheating and leaving with the same excuse, “Not enough.”
 
Not enough attention.
 
Not enough love.
 
Not enough quality time.
 
Not enough sex.
 
Not enough money.
 
When I kept making the mistake of dating these women, because all women claim their last boyfriend was abusive, so I had no real choice, I found myself in the same position. I was never doing enough. As they sought their next partner under the protection and provision I provided, I was left behind.
 
But they were never at fault for cheating. Even other women blamed me for picking them or not providing enough. Nobody blamed the women for seeking another man.
 
My solution: I do not pick anymore. Buy me gifts, shower me with attention, provide for me, and I will tell you it’s still not enough.

The arrogance of some guys who claim they are better fathers than the men women kicked out is unbelievable. Who will actually be better for that man’s child once he is thrown aside for being imperfect?
 
I once saw a furious woman drive into a loading dock where her ex worked. She stormed out of the car leaving the child in the back seat and her new guy in the front. She walked over to the man yelling, screaming, and hitting him. He didn’t flinch.
 
He was suing her for full custody because his daughter told him mommy’s boyfriend slapped her for saying something.
 
After a minute, the boyfriend in the front seat got up to join the fight. The child followed, upset at her parents fighting. She ran to her dad. He picked her up. The mom backed off. That’s when the boyfriend stepped in with his two cents.
 
The man, holding his daughter, looked at him and yelled loud enough to drown out the trucks, “Who the FUCK are you?”
 
Without waiting for an answer, he asked his daughter, “Is this the man that hit you?”
 
She nodded. With one punch, he knocked the boyfriend out. Then he told his daughter, “I bet you he won’t hit you anymore.”
 
The cops arrived. The boyfriend regained consciousness and wanted to press charges. The man told the cops the whole incident was on camera and he’d press charges on his ex if any charges were pressed.
 
He explained why he hit the boyfriend. The cops told the boyfriend, “Are you stupid? Hitting another man’s kid?”
 
The boyfriend tried to explain he was just reprimanding the girl.
 
The cop cut him off, “I don’t care! You do not hit anyone’s kid! You understand?”
 
Like I said, the arrogance of some guys who claim they’re better fathers is staggering.

Here is an interesting question you should ask a female.
 
Here is the question:
 
Should a 25 year old go to prison for having sex with a 13 year old?
 
When the dust settles, ask, how many years should that woman be locked up?
 
Watch the look on her face.

I have met so many women who take pride in talking about their divorce or breakup. They always make it clear they were the ones who ended it, not their partner. They claim they do not want their ex back, but say their ex wants them back. From middle school to high school, college, neighborhoods, workplaces, and beyond, women boast about breaking up with some man.
 
I was talking to a girl about her ex-husband. In the middle of her story, I asked why she divorced him, since it is almost always the woman who ends it. I could not believe my ears when she thanked me for noticing she was the one who divorced him, not the other way around.

In a chat between a man and a girl, if you do not send a question, the conversation ends. It is like they do not know what to say or do next. They either wait for another question or they are not interested. This happens so often it is amazing. Women either do not know how to communicate or they are lazy.
 
They also never initiate conversations. Phone calls, emails, texts, when they do start a conversation, it is usually just to say, “Hi,” then they wait for you to respond. If you reply with “Hi” back, that is usually the end of the conversation.
 
Even before the internet, girls would sit by the phone waiting for someone to call. But when the call came, they would let it ring a few times before answering. Once they picked up, they played “hard to get.”
 
None of this applies when they need your resources. Then, they have no problem telling you their problems to trigger your “Fix It Man” mode. They never ask for help, they only state problems.

Woman: Yes, you were a good provider. You gave me food to eat, clothes to wear, and helped me a great deal in my personal life and career. We had great times together. We went places and shared experiences. You were good to me in every way I can think of. Yes, dear, you loved me. But that is not enough. I met another and I am moving in with him today. I fell in love with him. It just happened. It was not my fault. I never planned it this way.
 
Remember, I still love you.
 
(I hope he buys this in case my new boyfriend does not work out)

The arrogance of some women who do not think they are cheating when they are in bed with a married man is staggering. They believe they are next in line for a ring and a white gown.
 
I want to yell at these women, “HEY, STUPID! HE IS MARRIED, YOU IDIOT! IF YOU MARRY HIM, YOU ARE MARRYING A CHEATER!”
 
Men almost never initiate divorce. The cost is too high. The game is rigged and the judges are one sided. You will never see a woman giving half her wealth, the house, and the kids to the man, let alone paying him alimony.
 
When you ask why, you will always hear, “Because I love him.”
 
These women actively scout social settings looking for a band of gold on a man’s finger. That ring is their proof he is a good provider. They do not bother analyzing anything themselves.
 
There are men who do not cheat, and there are women who want that man. Those women will stop at nothing to break up the union.
 
I have seen women in offices putting lipstick on their finger pretending to fix their boss’s collar before leaving. They dab lipstick on the collar and when the wife sees it at home, that is all she needs to prove her husband is cheating. Cue the lawyers ready to profit from the misunderstanding.
 
I have heard of women throwing their panties in the back seat of a married coworker’s car to start drama. When he divorces, she consoles him and gets close.
 
Men are treated as property by women. Don’t believe otherwise.

At work, my manager started dating a girl in a different department. I told him to be careful. He took my warnings lightly.
 
After a few weeks of dating and bed hopping, he took the woman to an after work gathering where someone asked if she was his new girlfriend. He replied, “I’m not sure yet, but so far, it looks good.”
 
She was furious. “What do you mean you are not sure?”
 
From what I heard, she yelled, screamed, and carried on well beyond a normal office party.
 
The next morning, he told me the story. He thought he was going to lose his job. As the day went on, Human Resources assured him his part in the incident would not hurt his career.
 
By 5pm, it was time for me to go home. My cubicle was right next to his office, and I heard the front door open and close. It was her. She stood in front of his office, explaining how last night’s incident was not her fault. He stayed at his desk, telling her it was over, and he couldn’t afford any more incidents that would damage his career.
 
She pleaded and begged him to reconsider. He stuck to his guns and said, “No.”
 
The conversation escalated from “It’s not my fault” to “You are to blame.”
 
My manager, a great friend, knew I was still at my cubicle listening to back him up if needed.
 
Noticing the encounter was heading into dangerous territory, my friend told her I was nearby to witness and protect him. I spoke up in the deepest, most authoritative voice I could muster, “Is there any trouble in there?”
 
She walked over to my cubicle, saw me, and got visibly intimidated. (I look as intimidating as a member of Tony Soprano’s crew.) I held up a broken digital camera and told her I was recording everything.
 
She looked shocked, said a few last words, and left.
 
My friend thanked me. When he found a new job, I was his first hire, and he gave me a great position.
 
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Rest in peace
Nathanial “Nate” Johnson

• I paid for the dinners
 
• I paid for the drinks
 
• I bought the flowers
 
• I bought the candies
 
• I bought the jewelry
 
• I paid for the entertainment
 
• I paid for the trips
 
I have done it all, and the recipients of the above still declared it was not enough. It is never enough. It does not work. That is why I do not do it anymore.
 
If you think I am cheap, let me tell you about a great dinner I had with my friend Gilbert Wong. Our bill was $219.93. He even guessed the amount of the bill before it arrived. He was only 7 cents off. We split the bill and enjoyed the entire evening.
 
Thanx Gil.
 
No more paying for cunts making their foodie calls.

Yes, I was a human placeholder. The good guy that came to a girl’s rescue after her bad boy, the one she picked, abused her, cheated on her, gambled, used drugs, or lived like a criminal.
 
I was that man who never cheated, who did everything I could to build her back up. I gave her the confidence she lost. I put in the work to fix what another man broke.
 
And once she felt strong again, she would run straight into the arms of another bad boy. Then she would look me in the eye and tell me I was not good enough. She would give me the goodbye kiss and sprinkle it with a fake affirmation, “But I still love you.”
 
Not anymore.
 
I will never do that again.
 
Not this man.

Are they risking their lives saving people in flood zones with their boats?
 
There were no feminists on the Titanic.
 
When it was time to save lives, it was men and men alone who went to her rescue, and not a feminist in sight.
 
When the ship was sinking, “women and children first” was not up for debate. Feminism vanished the moment sacrifice was required.

I saw this beggar on the NYC Subway today. She was claiming she was a homeless single mother with an abusive husband and now they are divorced.
 
I started thinking, was this woman in a great relationship before she went to bed with that man to get pregnant, or was this man abusive from day one? Nobody just becomes abusive out of nowhere for no reason. Abuse does not appear like magic. It shows its face early, but people ignore it when it serves their desires.
 
But since it is New York City and on the Subway, it is probably just a lie.
 
Lie or not, this woman would not be telling that story day in and day out riding one train car after another if she was not making money from the deal.
 
Men and women hand her money for her story. They pay to feel good about themselves.
 
If a man were to stand in front of them telling the same sob story, women would look down on him with disgust. They would not give him a cent. A man’s pain is not profitable. His struggles are not currency.

Of all the girls I have met and keep on meeting, I keep hearing the same stories about their last boyfriend or husband..
 
1. He was abusive.
 
• • a. This is a scam. Did she really mean she was loving, caring, giving and sharing, and all he did was punch her in the face? I can walk on any street in America today and take a poll of 10,000 men, including you and me, and they would all say they would never hit a female. These females want me to believe they found that one man in 10,000 that would hit a female. I will not believe it..
 
2. He did not give me enough attention. – Dnger Will Robinson, my sensors indicate extreme human manipulation. Every time I hear this excuse, I think to myself the following,.
 
• • a. How much attention did he promise you?.
 
• • b. Did he give you a lot of attention, but that was not enough?.
 
• • c. Did he give you all the attention any human can give, but that was not enough?.
 
• • d. How much attention did he promise you when you first met?.
 
• • e. How much attention is enough?.
 
• • f. How much attention have you received since you two split?.
 
• • g. Was breaking up your family your solution to your attention needs?.
 
3. He did not love me.
 
• • a. When I hear this, I cannot help but ask, “You must have loved him a whole lot for you to leave him” or “How do you measure someone’s love for you” or “Do you measure your pet’s love for you”.
 
4. He cheated on me.
 
• • a. An oldie but goodie. I have seen this a million times. Females do not mind cheaters if the man is cheating on his wife for her. They never mind being the target of a cheating man. But that is the man they partnered with, and now they are surprised that he cheated yet again..
 
5. He was a gambler, alcoholic or a substance abuser.
 
• • a. Gamblers and substance abusers rarely just pop up out of nowhere. There are indications and warning signs all around that the female chooses to ignore.

I was talking to this girl once when we were discussing relationships. I asked her why she was single and she said what all girls say, “I am picky”.
 
I responded, “You will be picky until you are desperate”.
 
She snapped back, “I am not desperate”.
 
I repeated, “You will be picky until you are desperate”.
 
She paused and only said, “Oh”.
 
Then she caught herself and tried to save face, “I will never be desperate, look at this” as she sat up and displayed her body.
 
I replied with nothing but an “Oh”.
 
I think I ruined her day.

It is sad to see that every time a man talks about his cheating partner to another woman, she will waste no time blaming the man sitting in front of her. She will blame him in the following ways;
 
1. It is your fault for trusting her.
 
2. It is your fault for picking her.
 
3. It is your fault for not giving her enough.
 
4. It is your fault because maybe unconsciously, you wanted her to cheat.
 
5. It is your fault for not paying her enough attention.
 
6. It is your fault because you must have treated her badly.
 
7. It is your fault for not showing her that you love her.
 
8. It is your fault for giving her everything she wanted, because maybe she did not want what she asked for.

Women are so desperate to find a larger than life man, they will believe any liar that tells them exactly what they want to hear.
 
“I love you more than anything on this earth,” that is a lie. Nobody loves one thing so much that everything else becomes meaningless.
 
“You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen,” another lie. Beauty is everywhere, and no man has only seen one woman in his life.
 
“You are the world to me,” if she leaves, will he stop breathing? Will his heart stop beating? That is not love, that is obsession, and obsession is weakness.
 
“I love you more than the sun, moon, sky and stars,” no man sits around loving the sun and the stars. He admires them, but life goes on whether they shine or not. Love is not poetic worship. Love is choice, not fantasy.

Four and a half years ago, my brother met a young woman. She was soft spoken, sweet, and looked angelic. At the time, she was 21 and my brother was 26. She came from a respectable family, her parents had been married until her father passed away. My father and stepmother adored her, convinced she was a perfect angel. But I caught a red flag when she told me she liked my brother because he had “so much potential.”
 
My brother and the rest of my family are unaware of the online groups or philosophies I follow, so I kept my thoughts to myself. But I couldn’t ignore the word “potential.” Potential for what? I knew she probably meant “money making potential,” but at first, I let it slide.
 
I thought about it more. Potential to be a top mechanic? A clothing designer? Her statement felt incomplete. Not grammatically, but in meaning. Did she not see potential in herself? Don’t we all have potential to achieve what we work for? Yet, she only focused on what my brother could offer her.
 
Soon after they started dating, my brother helped her get a job in the city. As second in command to the mayor, he secured her a great salary. That job opened doors, and she eventually moved to a prestigious accounting firm, earning $130,000 a year, more than my brother made.
 
During that time, they lived rent free in my father’s basement, saving money. My brother invested in distressed properties, renovated them, and built a portfolio of three investment properties with six rental units, generating steady income. They moved into a luxury apartment in the city, with a 24 hour gym, pool, sauna, jacuzzi, steam room, and sundeck. They looked like they were living the dream.
 
Then, on my brother’s birthday, she packed her things and left. She moved back to her mother’s house in another state, quitting her job without notice. She quickly shifted her dependency from my brother to her mother. She also announced she would claim full ownership of their joint properties.
 
She kept texting my brother, but when he forwarded her messages to her mother, she blocked his number. Even her mother was shocked by her behavior. Eventually, she sent him a message saying she wanted no contact for two weeks because their relationship lacked “consistency.” That vague excuse frustrated my brother. She also told him he could have affairs but forbade him from moving another woman into their apartment. It was obvious she was keeping him as a backup in case her new relationship failed.
 
When my brother went to my father’s house to talk, my father, 81 and still sharp, told him he should have been nicer to her. He still saw her as an angel and even pointed out that she made more money than my brother.
 
I couldn’t hold back. I reminded my father that my brother had launched her career, helped her prepare for interviews, and built three investment properties bringing in consistent income. I said she should be grateful to him.
 
When my brother arrived, he shared her latest demands and her vague complaints about “inconsistency.” I asked him, “What consistency did you promise her that you didn’t deliver? What consistency did she expect that you failed to provide? What consistency is she giving you while demanding two weeks of silence? Life doesn’t guarantee consistency, so why should you give her more than life itself?”
 
I spent a week with him at his place, mostly listening. We didn’t talk much, just spent nights on his rooftop deck, drinking expensive wine and champagne she had bought for special occasions. He begged me for my honest opinion. I told him, as his brother, I couldn’t be entirely neutral, but the facts were clear. She was acting like a spoiled child who didn’t know what she wanted but expected him to provide it anyway.
 
I gave him a plan. Try to get her back, but work on removing her name from their shared properties. If she returned, she needed to take a pregnancy test. If she refused, buy out her share and sue her for half the rent and utilities she owed.
 
By the end of the week, my brother took a break from everything. He took time off work and traveled to Colombia, where he is half Colombian. On his first day there, he met a woman near his aunt’s house. She paid for their meals, drinks, and drove him around in her car. My brother was stunned by her generosity. She didn’t want to move to the United States and was happy with her career, but she was glad to be his girlfriend while he was there.
 
When he returned from Colombia, his ex hit him with a lawsuit, demanding full ownership of all three properties. But when the case went to court, the judge ruled in my brother’s favor. He was ordered to pay her only $2,500.
 
Later, her lawyer told my brother he had advised her to settle for $10,000, but she had insisted on trying to take it all. After paying her legal fees, she ended up with nothing.

I have a question for everyone here
 
If you and your girlfriend or wife had a fight, whose side would your parents take?
 
In my experience, most fathers will side with the girl while the mother will defend the man. But outsiders, like cops, judges, and social justice warriors, will always side with the female no matter what.
 
Do you want me to expand this into a full brutal truth post about why fathers betray their sons in relationships?

I responded to a Craigslist personal ad titled “Buy Me A Drink” and this is how the exchange went:
 
TheXYGhost: Do you take PayPal, Bitcoin, Apple Pay?
 
Her: I’m not a hooker, asshole.
 
TheXYGhost: Good. Now tell me, how many drinks should a man buy you on the first date?
 
Her: If the man is you, zero. I’m not interested.
 
TheXYGhost: I’m not talking about me. I’m talking about your dream man, Prince Charming. How many drinks does he have to buy you before you decide he’s charming enough for you?
 
Do a lot of men jump through hoops and kiss your ass? If so, you’re a wimp magnet.
 
Her: You’re a creep. Leave me alone.
 
TheXYGhost: I’m stupid, you’re smart. I’m just trying to learn. Answer my questions and I’ll disappear. Give me some truth and I’ll even help you stock up on rum or vodka, your pick, delivered straight to you.
 
Her: (Never replied)
 
I’m devastated.

Women believe they are testing men for character, and future behavior.The intention is reasonable.The method is flawed.
 
These tests are not measurements.They are emotional impressions, formed in moments.Moments cannot predict long term reality.
 
Men think in patterns, and systems.Women think in feelings, and snapshots.Systems can be tested.Snapshots cannot.
 
Women say they test for strength, confidence, stability, leadership, and boundaries.In practice, they create artificial pressure, and judge reactions.That does not measure those traits.It measures mood tolerance.
 
Confidence is mistaken for arrogance.Calm is mistaken for indifference.Patience is mistaken for weakness.
 
She wants stability, while introducing instability.She wants leadership, while resisting being led.She wants boundaries, but pushes against them.These contradictions make real evaluation impossible.
 
Consistency cannot exist, when the rules keep changing.Decisiveness cannot be judged, when there are no real consequences.Composure in a moment, does not equal emotional regulation over time.
 
Women value independence, until it limits attention.They admire ambition, until it reduces availability.They want reliability, but confuse it with emotional responsiveness.
 
Masculinity is expected to be strong, without being threatening,Dominant, without discomfort,Authoritative, without hierarchy.
 
That version exists only as an idea.
 
These tests do not happen once.They happen repeatedly, often many times a day, sometimes consciously, often unconsciously.They are not planned exams, they are emotional spot checks, triggered by mood, stress, uncertainty, or reassurance seeking.
 
Beyond what is already described above, she is also consistently testing for additional traits, often without realizing it.
 
Other traits she is consistently testing for
 
AssertivenessResilienceSelf controlDisciplineCompetenceIntegrityStatusResourcesDominancePresenceFrameAuthority
 
These traits are not evaluated through structured observation or long term analysis.They are inferred from tone shifts, reactions, compliance, resistance, and emotional availability.
 
Because the testing is frequent, emotional, and context driven, the results are unstable.A man can pass in the morning, fail by afternoon, and be reassessed again by night, without having changed anything at all.
 
That is why performance does not work.A man cannot pass an emotional exam, with no grading system.
 
The only workable approach, is alignment.
 
Live your structure.Act consistently.Let incompatibility reveal itself.
 
That is the only test that matters.

Question 1
What would make someone worth your life and your paycheck?
 
Question 2
Can you name one song where a woman declares unconditional love for a man?
 
Question 3
Is a working wife building the family’s wealth, or hoarding her own escape fund?
 
Question 4
How have women thanked you for providing, protecting, and sacrificing?
 
Question 5
If you stopped supporting her, how much would she claim you owe?
 
Question 6
If she left over your flaws, how much would she still demand?
 
Question 7
When has a woman sacrificed for you the way you’ve sacrificed for her?
 
Question 8
If love is real, why does it collapse when comfort disappears?
 
Question 9
Why does her loyalty vanish the moment her benefits stop?
 
Question 10
If you stopped giving tomorrow, what would remain between you?
 
Question 11
How many women stayed out of gratitude, not opportunity?
 
Question 12
Without your money, shelter, and protection, what proof of love would remain?

Let’s count the people involved when you’re in a relationship with a woman:
 
1. Her parents. They constantly tell you you’re not doing enough to keep their “precious angel” happy. Makes you wonder, was she really so depressed before you met her? Meanwhile, you remember how nasty she was in bed last night. Where did she learn those moves? She’s no angel.
 
2. Her big fat ugly friend. So ugly inside and out, you wonder what attraction she has to your girl. She sticks to your girl like glue because she uses her like fishermen use chum, to attract men. You’re in her way. She wants you gone.
 
3. Her other friend with a boyfriend. She’s already decided you’re an upgrade from her own man, who’s just a placeholder. Along with friend #2, she’ll lie and manipulate your girl, convincing her you cheated. When you find your car keyed and filled with dog shit, you’ll know it’s your girl getting revenge for things you never did. What you won’t know is how these two started the whole mess. This friend might come to your aid but will never admit her role in the chaos.
 
4. Some of your guy friends. Not men. They’ll compliment your girl, telling you how lucky you are to have her, when it’s actually the other way around. Cut loose any guy who flirts with your girl.
 
As for me, I don’t play the love game. Too many bosses and haters invited into my life. I work for no one and I’m not responsible for another full grown person’s happiness.