Category: Stories

A hint is encoded information, a clue, often indirect, covert, or a suggestion. 
 
When a woman communicates to a man by hinting, and that man does not decipher that encoded information the way she intended him to, she gets angry and frustrated. In some cases, she punishes that man for not decoding her words the way she intended. She may retaliate by not talking to him at all. Giving him “The Silent Treatment”, which is not a punishment to him as he strives for peace and quiet. 
 
On the flip side, when a man speaks directly to a woman, and she thinks that he’s speaking to her, as she would to him.  She will try to decode what he had just said. When she is confused over his direct statement and she can’t find the non existing, hidden meaning within that statement, she may ask him what does he mean by which he said or she will internalize her feelings while thinking that the man is deliberately trying to confuse or insult her. 
 
In short, a woman will encode her thoughts to a man, try to decode direct statements that was not encoded, and shut down when she is upset. Hinting is not an effective form of communication. Yet she will always say, “Communication is key to a healthy relationship”.

A friend of mine, despite my warnings, got married for the third time. He was 36, she was 24. She had a three-year-old daughter, he had an eleven-year-old son and an eight-year-old daughter. Within months she started the same routine I have seen a hundred times:
 
• “You always do this.”
• “You never do that.”
• “You should do this more.”
• “You shouldn’t do that.”
• “Why do you always…?”
• “You should tell me when you do that.”
• “Why do we always have to…?”
 
It became relentless. He came to me for advice. I told him, “Every time she finds something wrong with you, tell her to go find a perfect man.” He hesitated, afraid she might leave. I told him if she left, his problems with her would be over.
 
He took my advice. Not long after, she called me saying, “Your friend wants to divorce me.” I acted as if I didn’t know why and asked questions to hear her side. Eventually, I said, “So every time you point out something he does wrong, he tells you to go find a perfect man?”
 
Then I laid it out: “This man has a house, two cars, two kids he drives to school every day, and he includes your daughter in his daily life. Yet you find ten problems with him every day?”
 
She paused, then started with, “But I do this because…”
 
I cut her off. “Are you perfect? Do you ask permission for everything you do? Would you want someone nitpicking your every move?”
 
It was like a light switch flipped. She asked, “Do I really do that?”
 
I told her, “I don’t know. I’m not there all day.”
 
I think she finally understood.

He gave his wife a kidney, saved her life, paid every bill, and cared for her until she was healthy again. The moment she recovered, she divorced him, took the children, and demanded more.
 
In court, the judge was stunned. “You want the house, you want him to keep paying the mortgage, and you want child support? This man gave you his kidney.”
 
She answered without shame. “That’s because he loves me. I don’t love him. He’s a great man, I’ve never said he wasn’t, but he’s just not good enough for me. He deserves a woman who truly loves him.”
 
The room went silent. People could not believe what they had heard.
 
She looked around and said, “What? At least I’m being honest.”

As of 2024, total student loan debt sits at $1.6 trillion. Women hold over 67 percent of it. That is $1 trillion in debt owed by women. Over 60 percent of college degrees are now held by women.
 
Many of these women spend their prime years chasing degrees instead of building relationships. They believe status will make them more attractive to men, the same way they view a man’s education as desirable. They think that if they achieve enough status, a high-caliber man will marry them, pay off their student loans, and give them the financial stability to quit working.
 
It is a strategy built on the belief that a man should be the reward for her ambition, and the solution to the debt she chose to create.

Him: What’s wrong?
Her: Nothing.
Him: Are you sure? You seem upset.
Her: Nothing’s wrong. I’m OK.
Him: OK, I was just checking.
 
Her mind: Why didn’t he ask me a third time? I was ready to tell him if he had just asked once more. He must not love me anymore.

Most of the time, women communicate with men through hints. They speak in statements or questions laced with hidden meanings. That is only half the problem. Because she speaks in hints, she assumes your direct statements also contain hidden meanings.
 
She may ask, “Are you going to wear that suit to the event tomorrow?”
 
You, as a man, answer “Yes” or “No.” But the hidden meaning behind her question is disapproval. Your direct answer will be taken as dismissive, proof in her mind that you do not care about her feelings.
 
If you ask her a direct question like, “Do you want to order takeout tonight?” she may interpret it as a hint that you hate her cooking. She will fill in the blanks with the worst possible scenario.
 
Even something as simple as, “Are you going to work tomorrow?” can turn into a trap. She may not see a direct question. She may pause, suspicious, and ask, “What do you mean by that?”
 
I have seen countless interviews where a woman is asked a direct question, yet she answers as if the real question is hidden between the words. It is how she hears the world.

She will complain to her friends and family that you are not giving her what she never asked for. She will be angry that you cannot read her mind. In her mind, if you truly loved her, you would magically know what she wants.
 
She believes telling you directly would ruin the gesture because it would not come from you naturally. So she drops hints. But hints are not communication, they are games.
 
She feels betrayed when you do not give her what she wanted, but the truth is she betrayed herself. She set impossible expectations. Her own refusal to communicate clearly built the wall between you and her, and she will still blame you for it.

The answer is simple but layered. Many men notice that when they are single, women reject them. Once they have a girlfriend, other women suddenly show interest. Several forces may be at work:
 
1. A man carries himself with more confidence when he has a partner.
 
2. Women use social proof, seeing another woman choose him as proof of his value.
 
3. She is drawn to the forbidden nature of pursuing a taken man.
 
4. She sees the girlfriend as a rival and wants to even the score by sleeping with her man.
 
5. She envies the girlfriend’s looks or status and wants to take what she has.
 
6. She sees how well he treats his woman and wants to punish her own man for not doing the same.
 
7. She wants to break them up so she can have him for herself.

I am 58 years old and have my daily coffee at a local restaurant bar. I often chat with the female bartender and sometimes share stories about my past relationships. I could tell she doubted some of them.
 
One day, as I was telling her how long I have been single, a woman in her 50s walked up and handed me her business card. She said, “You’re single? I’m single too. We single people need to stick together. We’re in the same boat.”
 
I took her card and replied, “We are not in the same boat. We are in the same storm.”
 
Her card said she was a branch manager at a bank down the street. Over the next few days she came back to the bar with a laptop, pretending to work while sitting near me. The bartenders, knowing my vision is limited, kept watch. They told me she kept glancing at me, waiting for me to make a move.
 
Every time she left, they said she walked out frustrated.
 
I will not be fooled again.

Women love to claim they are great multitaskers, yet they put relationships on hold to chase degrees and careers. When they are finally ready for a family, they expect a man who can juggle keeping them happy, keeping his customers happy, and keeping his bosses happy, all at the same time, while they focus only on running the household.
 
If they are such great multitaskers, why can they not handle school, work, and spending time with a man who wants to build a family?

Make no mistake. It is not men who choose women, it is women who choose men. A man can chase endlessly, but the final decision is always hers. She selects for use, not for love. If she wants your provisions, she will bait you along. Unless you are rich enough to have women competing for your attention, the power of choice is never yours.
 
She will select the man who fits her current temporary need. She may want citizenship, so she targets a man she can control. She may want housing or a job, so she hunts for a man who will provide it. She may even marry, not out of loyalty, but to secure her position until the man of her real dreams steps into view.
 
A woman never refuses provisions. If you hand them over freely, she will take them without shame. What she extracts always outweighs what she returns. Her loyalty is not to you, it is to her survival. The moment you stop providing is the moment she stops pretending. The moment another man offers more is the moment she pivots without hesitation.
 
Her promises are temporary, her devotion conditional, her respect an illusion. She smiles while she calculates, embraces while she plans, whispers love while her eyes search for the next advantage. A man who forgets this truth sets himself up for betrayal.
 
What she calls partnership is ownership. She does not want balance; she wants control. The man who provides becomes the man who obeys. The man who obeys becomes the man who is discarded. The cycle never ends because her hunger never ends.
 
The provider believes he is loved, but he is only tolerated. He believes he is chosen for who he is, but he is chosen for what he gives. She does not fall for the man; she falls for the benefits. And when those benefits fade, so does her loyalty.
 
The man who understands this refuses to be baited. He does not give blindly. He does not mistake transaction for devotion. He sees her choices for what they are: survival strategies, not love.
 
Once a man gives his strength away, he ceases to be her man. He becomes her resource, her tool, her stepping stone, he’s only a provider to her.

If you were raised by a single mother who filled your head with stories about how badly your father treated her, it may be time to reevaluate. She may have been attracted to that man, whether he was a substance abuser, violent, a con artist, a liar, a cheat, or a criminal. Or she may have exaggerated, lied, or provoked him until he snapped.

Ask her about the man who loved her the most, and she will call him boring. She wanted entertainment, not stability.
 
Ask her about the man she loved the most, and she will say he was abusive and a cheater.
 
Make no mistake, women are often drawn to men who cheat or have the potential to cheat. If her man does not cheat, she may invent stories that he did. This victim narrative gains her sympathy and attracts other men who want to rescue her.
 
Ask her if she would have treated her first boyfriend better if she had known he would be the last man in her life. If she says yes, she admits she mistreated him.
 
Be cautious. Keep your distance or see her only as casual. She will likely never be satisfied.

A hotel maid, while cleaning a suite, found a used condom in the trash. Knowing the occupant was wealthy, she took the contents and inserted them into herself. She became pregnant and sued the man for child support. With DNA results and her story, the courts ruled in her favor and awarded her a large sum.
 
Coaches warn new athletes to dispose of condoms immediately and properly after use.
 
What would happen if there were a law blocking any woman from collecting child support unless she was married to the father or if the DNA did not match?
 
And what should happen to the child and the wife if the child she gave birth to is not her husband’s?

Home wrecking is when a woman deliberately sabotages a relationship for her own gain. She may call your girlfriend or wife and lie about your supposed infidelity. The sad truth is this tactic often works because many women will take another woman’s word without investigation. They will react emotionally based on the shock of the accusation. Your partner may not even tell you about the anonymous call from this manipulative Jezebel.
 
Has your wife or girlfriend ever accused you of cheating out of nowhere?
 
Possible reasons for these sudden accusations:
 
1. She is angry at you for something you said or did at work or in your social circle.
 
2. She sees you as a great catch and wants you and your partner to break up so she can step in and console you.
 
3. Your girlfriend or wife angered her.
 
4. She is jealous and wants your relationship to fail because you have something she does not.

Today’s woman wants a personal slave.
 
Provide me food.
Provide me shelter.
Provide me clothes.
Provide me protection.
Provide me attention.
Provide me compliments.
Provide me entertainment.
Provide me luxuries.
Provide me travel.
Provide me adventure.
Provide me drama.
Provide me jewelry.
Provide me happiness.
Provide me emotional care.
 
Make me feel special.
Make me feel comfortable.
Make me happy.
 
Commit to me on my terms, but I will never commit to you.
Love me and honor me, but I will never put in the effort to love you.
Love me.
Protect me.
Provide for me.
Praise me.
Fight for me even when I am wrong.
 
I will measure, question, and challenge your love for me, but you are never allowed to do the same.
 
Be taller than me.
Be stronger than me.
Be faster than me.
Be richer than me.
Be older than me.
Be nice when I demand it.
Never be too nice.
Be strong when I need strength.
Be sensitive when I want sensitivity.
 
Be my doctor.
Be my lawyer.
Be my therapist.
 
Pay my rent.
Pay my bills.
Pay me attention.
Pay me compliments.
 
And if you do all that, I owe you nothing. You cannot tell me anything.
 
Listen to my problems but do not solve them unless I present them in the way I want them solved.
Do not tell me your problems, I will see you as weak and lose respect for you.
I will use your words to shame and humiliate you in public.
 
Tiptoe around my insecurities from my past toxic men I chose over you.
If you have insecurities from your past, that is your fault. I will ignore them, mock them, and dismiss them.
 
I want a leader. Lead me only where I want to go. Lead me how I want to be led. Lead me when I want leadership. Never guide me where you want me to go. If you fail to lead me exactly as I demand, I will take control and leave you.
 
I will never forgive your mistakes, but you better forgive mine.
 
If I raise my status with degrees, income, or attention, you must raise yours too or I will leave.
I will only accept you if you are six feet tall or taller, if you make six figures or more, if you have six pack abs. You must accept me no matter how I look, how I act, or how much I make.
 
They say relationships are hard work, so you must work hard to understand me and make me happy.
I do not know what makes me happy, but you better find it.
 
I will not cook for you, provide me a chef and an assistant.
I will not clean for you, provide me a maid.
 
If you give me more than any woman in history, it might still not be enough.
Work more.
Work better.
Work faster.
Work longer.
 
If you do everything I demand, you are weak.
If you do not, I do not want you.
 
If I lie, it is your fault for believing me.
If I swindle you, it is your fault for trusting me.
If I cheat, it is your fault for choosing me.
 
I will speak in hints and expect you to know exactly what I mean because communication is key.
I will never tell you what I want, but I will tell everyone you are not giving it to me.
 
I will find your weaknesses and exploit them. If you fall for my manipulation, you are too weak, so I will keep trying.
 
If I cheat, you must forgive me.
If I even imagine you cheated, I will destroy you, take everything, and keep your children from you.
 
Be better in bed than the hundred men before you.
Take care of me and my children from other men who failed me.
Give me everything I want because I am worth it.
 
I will insult, guilt, cry, manipulate, complain, and nag until you do what I want. I will never simply ask.
 
I am allowed to hit you, but if you touch me, I will have you arrested.
 
If you please me and my kids, I will still divorce you, take your home, your pension, your money, and more. You will pay child support for children I will withhold from you and alimony because I want it. This will prove I am independent and do not need a man.
 
I am the prize. Get on your knee and offer yourself to me. But others can still take me from you at any time.
 
I am not like other girls.
 
And remember, we are equal.

Most modern women want a man on her self-defined level or higher. This level is vague, subjective, and changes from woman to woman, but it almost always comes down to his income, status, height, and looks.
 
For the sake of this point, say she rates herself as a level 5. She will demand a man who is a 6 or higher, factoring in whatever components she decides matter at the moment.
 
The very fact that she seeks a man on a higher level is a red flag, and here is why:
 
1. What happens if she raises herself to a 7 in her mind and decides he is still the same? In her eyes, he is falling behind.
 
2. What happens when time passes and she decides his level is now lower than hers?
 
3. What if his level rises to a 10 or 12 while she drops to a 3 or 4?
 
4. Do you think she will stay if she believes she is above him?
 
5. Do you think her self-assessment is inflated?
 
6. Do you think her assessment of your value is accurate?
 
Regardless of her perception, you will still be expected to pay all the bills, open her doors, and kiss her feet while she saves her money for herself. You will be her personal servant, expected to fight and die for her, while she sees it as beneath her to even get you a glass of water.
 
Women like this say things like, “He needs to keep up with me” and “I might give him a chance.” Imagine a woman thinking she is offering you the privilege of becoming her servant.
 
The truth is she is not looking for a man to love, honor, or respect. She is looking for a man to raise her status and income while looking down on him as her provider and protector. A man should never provide for or protect someone who uses him. A man should provide for and protect only those who respect him.

I have been writing these articles since I was 42. Now at 61, I see the pattern clearly. When a woman starts talking about having a companion, she is often hinting that you should consider her for that role. Women speak in hints, and this is one of their favorites.
 
For most of my life, my female friends were married, had children with the same man, and had never been divorced. I believed they were devoted to their husbands and families. I made it a point to know their husbands personally.
 
Recently I have noticed that some of these same women, now my age, approach me when their husbands become sick or retire. They start by pushing the idea that I need a companion. Later I learn their husbands are either in the hospital or no longer working.
 
One woman even cried to me, “How can I travel to Europe to see my family if my husband retires? Does he only think about himself?”
 
The real meaning behind that is, “How dare he stop working after 40 years without asking me” or “How dare my provider stop providing for me.”
 
I am not anyone’s Prince Charming, but I have been single for 25 years and have made enough money to support a wife and family. To some women, that alone qualifies me as a potential provider.
 
But I will not be mom’s boyfriend. I will not be grandma’s boyfriend.

A female friend I had known for 21 years called out of the blue to have coffee. We had not seen each other since the pandemic. I was 60, she was 63, her husband was 72. We had worked together in various ways over the years. I had met her husband a few times. We even ran into each other in the Hamptons one summer. Her husband owned a shipping company. We got along fine.
 
She and I used to talk on the phone about news and movies. I was comfortable with her because she had been with her husband since she was 16.
 
We met at a bagel deli in Manhattan. We hugged, exchanged pleasantries, asked about each other’s families. She said everyone was fine.
 
After about 30 minutes she asked, “Why are you still single?”
 
I thought she knew, but I said it anyway. “I am not going through that again. Women hate men.”
 
She replied with the standard line, “You just picked the wrong women.”
 
I told her, “I picked the wrong women. My neighbors picked the wrong women. My family picked the wrong women. My friends, classmates, coworkers, all picked the wrong women. Everyone is picking the wrong women, but the women are never wrong for their actions. Besides, I do not have the money, knowledge, energy, patience, or time to make a woman happy.”
 
She snickered. “Don’t be silly. You need to open your mind. I heard you are doing well for yourself. It is not hard to make a woman happy.”
 
I snapped. “I will not provide for and protect another woman who has backstabbed all of her previous men, only to backstab me for doing the same. I will not be used again.”
 
She smiled. “I’m sure you will find someone you fall in love with. It’s just a matter of time.”
 
My anger grew. I told her, “I have loved many women and been betrayed every time. I want a woman to pick me because I am the right one. I want her to love me. I want her to reach into her pockets and buy me a car, a watch, and a dinner or two. What woman, with no history of loyalty or respect, should I devote my life and earnings to protect? All I am offered now is a position of servitude as mom’s boyfriend or grandma’s boyfriend. I will not provide for another man’s wife or raise another man’s child.”
 
She brushed it off. “That’s dumb. You’re paranoid. Not all women are out to get you. You need a loving woman beside you.”
 
I wondered why she was pushing so hard. I told her bluntly, “Let’s get off the subject. I don’t want to talk about it. If we keep talking about this, I will leave. I don’t want to offend you, but if you continue, I will have no choice.”
 
She got the message. We changed the subject for about 10 minutes. Then she checked her watch, said she had to go. I walked her to her building, gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek, and apologized for my tone.
 
Three weeks later, she called me crying. Her husband was in the hospital and might not make it. I tried to console her. She said he had pancreatic cancer and may not have long. Then she told me he had been admitted to the hospital about a month ago.
 
In case you missed it, here is the timeline: her husband went into the hospital. Three weeks later she met me, told me everyone was fine, then tried to sell me on getting a companion. One week later she called with the news.
 
She never realized what she had admitted. That was months ago. I am sure her husband has passed. She has not called me about it since. While he was in the hospital, she was hunting for her next provider. Maybe she found him.

Therapy is code for a dependency on others to think and analyze for her.
 
What most people do not understand is that women are dependent on others for almost everything they do. They consult psychics, therapists, astrologers, and their female friends, who often guide them to fail because they do not want their friends to rise above them in status.
 
The modern woman obeys and submits to astrologers, psychics, therapists, jealous girlfriends, lawyers, psychiatrists, and doctors who prescribe harmful mood-altering drugs. Yet she is combative toward the man who professes his love for her, using shaming tactics, insults, humiliation, guilt trips, nagging, and constant arguments.
 
In short, she obeys everyone who profits from her loss while spitting on the man who loves her.

My childhood friend married a widowed mother. Her first husband died while working as a maintenance worker on the Verrazzano-Narrows Bridge in New York City. My friend vowed to provide for and protect her and her daughter.
 
They later had three more daughters. The apartment was too small, so he started working nights and weekends, seven days a week, to save for a down payment on a house. This went on for two years.
 
He finally bought a small home built in 1957. It was modest but bigger than the apartment. He promised to add a second floor so all four daughters could have their own rooms.
 
He worked as a bouncer on the side and sometimes drove a limousine. Many nights he slept in my living room because he was too exhausted to drive home. I often packed food for him since I was single and cooked in large portions.
 
He hired an architect and took an apprentice job as a carpenter to make the expansion happen. By September, the second floor was finished after years of planning. Halloween came and went. Thanksgiving was in the new house. Then came Christmas.
 
With little money left, he still bought a Christmas tree, decorations, and presents for the whole family. Just before New Year’s, the boiler broke. He told the family they would have to brave the cold with blankets and space heaters until they could fix it.
 
One day, he picked up the mail and accidentally opened his wife’s bank statement, thinking it was a credit card bill. The balance was $180,000. Shocked, he showed her. She snatched it from his hands and shouted, “That’s my money!”
 
When he asked where it came from, she said it was from her late husband’s insurance policy. He asked when she got it. She said while she was pregnant with their first child.
 
He asked when she was going to tell him. She kept repeating, “That’s my money.”
 
He reminded her he had worked two and three jobs, seven days a week, for years to buy the house. She snapped, “You wanted to work those jobs.”
 
He asked if she would have let the kids freeze without a boiler. She replied, “That’s your job, and that’s my money.”
 
He made her sign over the money. He repaired the boiler, completed the second floor, bought a new car, and opened four investment accounts for his daughters’ futures.

If you’re stupid enough to marry a broad (bird if you’re from the UK, Sheila if you’re an Aussie), remember this:
 
1. Prenup.
 
2. Postnup.
 
3. Amendments on every anniversary.
 
Lock it down in writing. Every year. Terms and conditions updated regularly. Love doesn’t hold up in court, contracts do.

Hetty Green, known as The Witch of Wall Street, is listed in the Guinness Book of World Records as the stingiest woman in history. Her net worth in today’s dollars was over $5.4 billion.
 
Despite her extreme wealth, she married a millionaire and lived on leftover cakes and broken biscuits from a nearby bakery.
 
She caused her own son to lose his leg because she wasted time looking for a free clinic instead of paying a hospital bill.
 
She died in 1916 at the age of 81 from a stroke while arguing with her maid over a pay raise.

I was at a gathering with three men and four women when one woman suddenly blurted, “Men are dogs. They lie all the time to get what they want from us women.”
 
The men turned to me, knowing I was about to say something the women would not like.
 
I said, “Yes, men lie. They say, ‘I love you,’ or, ‘You are the most beautiful woman in the world,’ and you eat it up. Do you really believe it when a man says you are the most beautiful woman on the planet? But women lie too. They say, ‘You are the father,’ or, ‘He was abusive.’ The truth is, both sexes lie.”
 
One woman huffed. “You are generalizing. Not all women are like that. You cannot judge all women like that.”
 
I responded, “You started this conversation by saying men are dogs and that they lie all the time. Was that not a generalization? Was that not a judgment? I gave examples of both sexes lying, but you only defended women. Did I not also make examples about men? Why did you jump to defend women as if I only criticized them? Why do you excuse negative generalizations about men but take offense when it is about women?”
 
She said, “You made it seem like women are evil.”
 
I replied, “I never said that. I spoke about both sides equally. I do not understand your concern.”
 
She thought she ended the conversation by saying, “You hate women,” as the other women nodded in agreement.
 
I said, “Are you not a hater of men if you make such negative statements about men?”
 
I know, I ruin the party sometimes.

Men have the rare ability to shut out everything and focus entirely on one thing until the job is done. You see it when a man is watching his game of choice and nothing anyone says or does breaks his focus until the commercial break.
 
Men also have the ability to self-sacrifice for the good of the team. “Take one for the team” is not just a phrase. In WWI and WWII, men threw themselves on live grenades to save their brothers in arms.
 
Women think everything is connected to everything else.
 
1. How she looks depends on how others see her.
 
2. How she feels depends on how she looks.
 
3. How successful she is depends on how she feels.
 
After 60 years of the feminist movement, they still believe the smartest business move they can make is to marry the right man. Once again, dependency on others.
 
Every story about why women cheat centers on her dependence. Listen to her words: “He didn’t make me happy,” “He made me upset,” “He made me feel unwanted,” “He made me cry.” Then when she is pleased: “He makes me feel good,” “He makes me feel confident,” “He makes me laugh,” “He makes me smile.”
 
There is always an outside source she depends on. Always.