Modern dating has collapsed into a never ending brutal exchange of looks and money. A woman temporarily trades her beauty for a man’s income and the bond is never stable because the market never sleeps. To her there is always room to upgrade as she is on the lookout no matter if she is married engaged etc. If a woman raises her status with a college degree and raises her income higher than the man she is currently with she views him as worthless. She immediately searches for another with a higher market value. This is a society that openly rewards chaos and punishes structure. We now live in a normalized culture that encourages women to have fifteen kids from ten different men and men to have thirty kids from thirty different women. That is not a family built on cohesion or moral values. That is factory breeding designed to collect multiple streams of child support welfare SNAP EBT and Section 8. No accountability. No unity. No responsibility. Only profit.
She upgrades without consequence and he pays the penalty for moving forward. She raises her income and walks out with the kids which tears the bond with the father who mattered most to that child. She raises her beauty and draws new men with more resources and she walks away clean because the system punishes him and protects her. Upgrading is profit for her. Upgrading is punishment for him.Marriage once stood as a fortress around family. Now it chains a man with lifetime obligation long after the relationship collapses. If her expectations were built in fantasy and the fantasy fails the punishment is real. The system lets her walk away with half his life while he rebuilds from the ashes. He must keep her endlessly happy yet happiness is not something one person can create for another. Happiness must be built inside and no man can supply it no matter how hard he fights.
And yet these same women cry out with the tired line “where are all the good men” as if they were victims of a shortage. They are not victims of a shortage. They are victims of their own habits. They spent their teens and twenties disrespecting every man who treated them well. They used men tested them provoked them teased them insulted them humiliated them played them finessed them and cheated on them without guilt. A woman gets hit on a hundred times a month. That becomes twelve hundred times a year. That becomes twelve thousand times between eighteen and twenty eight. And with all that male attention she still chooses the same kind of man. The gangster. The criminal. The alcoholic. The gambler. The abuser. The ex con. The player. The cheater. The disaster. The drug addict. The dealer. The thief.
She seeks chaos because chaos excites her. It feeds her ego. It fuels her fantasy that she can tame destruction. So she picks the worst men alive then claims innocence when the fire burns her. The problem is never the absence of good men. The problem is her blindness to good men. A stable man a disciplined man a peaceful man feels boring to a woman raised on dysfunction. So she ignores him disrespects him or uses him until he finally walks.
The only things she initiates are arguments and breakups. She bounces from man to man expecting unlimited dates constant attention and endless payments from any fool desperate enough to tolerate her games. Some women have even abandon their husband and their children to marry a man on death row or locked in a maximum security prison. There is no bottom to the craving for chaos.
Then forty arrives. Her beauty fades. Her attention shrinks. Her options collapse. She looks at the ruins she built and she cries “where are all the good men”. The answer is brutal. Those good men were always there. They simply stopped tolerating disrespect. They walked away to save their sanity. They built new lives with peace and discipline and purpose. They invested in themselves instead of being drained by arguments nagging and endless demands.
A woman treats a man worse than a slave because she sees him as a work animal that must never rest. She rages the moment he sits because in her mind he exists to serve. She demands labor and gives chaos. She demands loyalty and gives disrespect. She demands effort and gives nothing but stress. This pattern destroys relationships and many have watched it ruin the lives of countless men.
So when these women hit the wall they dare to ask “where are all the good men”. The truth is simple. Good men are exactly where any man with self respect eventually goes. They are far away. They are unreachable. They refuse to return to women who wasted their youth on destruction. Good men were never missing. Good men simply stopped dealing with women who refused to be worth reaching.
