If I tell you I no longer want you to feed me or support me, what exactly would I owe you? Nothing. Yet in her mind, the moment she walks away, you still owe her. If she rejects your support because she found one imperfection in you, she still believes she’s entitled to take something on her way out, your money, your possessions, even your peace.
Can you name even one song where a woman sincerely professes her love for a man, without conditions, without self-promotion, without turning it into her personal empowerment anthem? Outside of Whitney Houston’s “I Will Always Love You” and Tammy Wynette’s “Stand By Your Man,” the examples are almost non-existent. That silence speaks louder than a thousand choruses.
If she can control her mood swings, tantrums and emotional outbursts at work or around family, why is it that she unleashes them all on you? It’s because she respects them more than she respects you. You’re her emotional punching bag because she thinks you’ll never walk away.
Is a woman entitled to free meals, gifts and entertainment from any man as long as she’s attractive? And when her beauty fades, is she still entitled to his money anyway? Ask yourself how many working wives actually build the family’s future with their earnings, and how many secretly stash it away to buy their freedom from the man who carried them from the start.
What would someone have to do for you to make you willing to protect them with your life and break your back paying their bills? If the answer is “love me,” then how exactly did the women in your past thank you for the wining, dining, protecting and providing? Too often, that thanks comes in the form of boredom, resentment, or a list of demands you never signed up for.
Watch closely, women often start resenting their man around the time their youngest child turns four or five, or after three years with no kids. The pattern is there if you’re willing to see it. And once you see it, you’ll stop wondering what you owe, and start asking why you were expected to owe it in the first place.
