Help a man out once and when you meet again years later, he will remember. He’ll look you in the eye, thank you without hesitation, and offer his hand if you ever need it. Gratitude is stamped into his code because he knows what it means to struggle and to be lifted.
Do the same for a woman and the response is different. She won’t thank you. She’ll ask for more. She’ll act like your past help was a down payment on an endless debt. If you confront her about vanishing, she’ll offer a dozen excuses for not staying in touch, most of them lies designed to mask the guilt she carries for deliberately cutting you off after getting what she wanted.
Instead of appreciation, you’ll get deflection. Instead of loyalty, you’ll get critique. She’ll point out your flaws, your missteps, your imperfections, anything to justify why she ghosted you, ignored your kindness, and vanished until she needed something again.
A man sees help as a bond. A woman sees help as leverage. Once it’s spent, so are you.
