Never. Ever. Under any circumstances. Date a single mother. No matter what.
1. You are putting yourself in a position where you can be accused of sexually abusing a child that is not yours. It only takes one lie to destroy your life.
2. In some countries, you will be legally obligated to pay child support for children that are not biologically yours. You will be financially enslaved to a child you never fathered.
3. Single mothers are desperate for resources. They do not care about you. They care about what you can provide. You are not being chosen for who you are. You are being selected as a sponsor.
4. You will become her newest babysitter. Your social life, your freedom, your time, it will vanish. Your life will revolve around her children, not by choice, but by expectation.
5. If she cannot love or forgive the man who gave her that child, what chance do you think you have? You are disposable. You are a utility.
6. Between her career, her children, her family, and her constant interactions with the child’s father, you will be squeezed in wherever you can do chores or pay bills. You are not her priority. You are her handyman.
7. Ask yourself this, if you were ejected from your own family, would you want another man stepping in to raise your child? Exactly.
8. Her ex is not gone. He is permanently in the picture. For the next 18 years, minimum. His presence will hover over every aspect of your relationship.
9. The moment you correct that child for misbehavior, you will hear the sharp retort, “You’re not my father.” You will have all the responsibilities of fatherhood and none of the respect.
10. Discipline that child, and you risk the child fabricating stories that will trigger violent retaliation from the biological father. You are one accusation away from a biker gang father showing up at your door.
11. I have listened to countless women casually joke about having affairs with their stepfathers. Most of these stories are fantasies, but imagine the moment one of those fantasies gets twisted into an accusation. You will be labeled a predator, your name destroyed, your life ruined, all because of a girl’s fantasy mistaken for truth.
You are gambling with your life, your freedom, and your future. Do not be naive. Single mothers are not looking for love. They are looking for resources, labor, and a scapegoat.
Never date a single mother. Ever.
