Here’s a guaranteed way to test if a girl is even remotely interested in you, ask her if she’s married or has a boyfriend.
If she says “no,” she might be lying, but that lie is revealing. It means she’s sizing you up. She sees potential. She’s keeping the door cracked open, just in case you’re worth her time.
If she says “yes,” she might still be lying, but one thing’s clear, she’s not interested in you. That answer is her escape hatch. It’s her polite rejection without confrontation. If she wanted you to pursue her, she wouldn’t bring up another man.
When I ask that question, I don’t care what the answer is. I don’t react. I flip the script. I congratulate her. If she says she’s single, I tell her she’s lucky to be strong, free, and independent. If she says she’s taken, I tell her she’s lucky to have a man willing to commit in a world full of women who burned that bridge.
Either way, it scrambles her expectations. She doesn’t get validation. She gets a mental curveball. No begging. No chasing. No approval-seeking. Just a cold reminder that I’m not auditioning for her. She’s being evaluated too.
