Month: October 2025

“Yes” means “Yes,” at this moment,
 
“Yes” means “No,” if I am not in the mood,
 
“No” means “No,” unless it means, try harder,
 
“No” means “Yes,” until I change my mind,
 
“Maybe” means “Yes,” to keep my options open,
 
“Maybe” means “No,” when I am unsure,

When I told the women in my life what my ex wife did to me, they would sooner or later turn it around to blame me, then spread rumors that I hated all women. It never ceased to amaze me. Why would every woman I spoke to about my ex immediately blame me, then claim I hated all women, when I was talking about the actions of one? It made no sense.
 
Over time, I started telling women about my divorce just to watch them blame me for her bad behavior and accuse me of being a woman hater. They blamed me for choosing her, faulted me for “allowing” her to cheat and steal my money. That is like blaming a homeowner for “allowing” burglars to rob the house.
 
These same women would march on Washington DC if anyone suggested that even one woman was raped because she “allowed” it to happen. The hypocrisy was staggering.
 
I got so tired of their reactions that I began lying about why I was no longer married. I started saying my ex wife had died, thinking I would finally get nothing more than a “Sorry for your loss” and maybe a question or two.
 
Wrong. Some women gave me dirty looks and outright accused me of killing her. Others said their condolences, then later told people they “knew” I killed her. No matter what I said, they found a way to turn it into an accusation.
 
I began calling this phenomenon “The Female Collective,” after The Borg Collective from Star Trek. It was like every woman operated under a shared code, all women are faultless, all men are guilty, and no investigation is ever needed before blaming the man.
 
Whenever they heard a news story about a woman killing a man, they instantly decided it was his fault.
 
I see the same warped thinking in politics. If you criticize Barack Hussein Obama, you hate all black people. If Donald J. Trump wants to build a wall on the Mexican border or temporarily ban immigration from seven countries, he is labeled a hater of all Mexicans, Muslims, and immigrants. If he insults one woman, Rosie O’Donnell, they claim he hates all women.
 
This isn’t logic. This is tribalism weaponized into automatic condemnation.

Here are some of the idiotic reasons women have given for breaking up.
 
1. You didn’t love me enough,
 
2. You never gave me enough attention,
 
3. We are just not compatible,
 
4. You didn’t control me enough,
 
5. You always want things done your way,
 
6. You never think about me,
 
7. You love your job or your car more than me,
 
8. We’ve grown apart,
 
9. You are abusive,
 
10. You’re too nice,
 
11. It’s just not working out,
 
12. We are not meant to be together,
 
13. You are overshadowing me,
 
14. Your cancer is not going to ruin my life,
 
15. My ex boyfriend just got early parole and I still love him, he was in for murder,
 
16. If you don’t do X, Y, and Z, I’ll find someone who will,
 
17. If you do X, Y, and Z again, I will leave you,
 
18. I don’t love you anymore, I love him, it’s not my fault, it just happened,
 
19. The nerve of your family telling me I have a drinking problem, I’m leaving you,
 
20. You lost your job,
 
21. We need to see other people,
 
22. You’re selfish, stingy, and greedy, I didn’t spend money on her kid, we had only been dating a very short time,
 
23. It’s not you, it’s me, I need to work on myself, then immediately begins dating another guy,
 
24. You’re too good to be true,
 
25. I’m confused,
 
26. I don’t know what I want,

She told me her husband was abusive,
She said he was a jerk,
She told me he cheated on her,
She told me she left him and was not getting a thing,
 
I took her in,
She told me she loved me,
I proposed,
We got married,
 
Now she is gone,
I caught her in a lie,
Her story stopped adding up,
We had a fight,
 
I got arrested,
She took out a protective order on me,
She told the cops and everyone I was abusive,
She called me a jerk to the man she is dating,
 
She told him I cheated on her,
She took my home and told him it was hers,
I can’t believe he believes her

So, the wife of my best friend of over thirty years had an encounter with a nasty woman.
 
It was 8 AM, she had just left the hospital with a cracked rib diagnosis, and she was in line at Starbucks waiting for her order. A woman with an English accent bumped into her hard.
 
“Ow,” she said mostly to herself, ignoring the woman who bumped her.
 
Irritated, the English woman looked her up and down and said in a snobbish tone, “Do you think I am to apologize to you?”
 
My friend’s wife is not one to start trouble, but she was not going to let this slide. She locked eyes with the woman and said, “No, you do not need to say sorry to me, I need to say sorry to you.
 
I am sorry that every man you thought was ‘the one’ left you,
I am sorry you wasted your youth,
I am sorry you go home alone every night,
I am sorry that wearing sequin ten inch heels at eight in the morning will never help you find a man.
 
Look dear, men want three things in a woman,
A beautiful face,
A beautiful heart,
A beautiful vagina,
 
and frankly, all three of yours are rotten. I am going to get my coffee, be on my way, and forget this conversation. You will remember this day forever. Get a cat and call it a day. Enjoy your coffee.”
 
The black woman behind the counter asked her, “Are you part black, because you just read that girl like a book?”
 
You have to love New York City women

If a man cheats,
Bad man, poor woman.
 
If a woman cheats,
“She must have had a reason.”
“He wasn’t doing enough to keep her happy.”
Result: Divorce him, take half his net worth, take the house, take the kids, make him pay for both lawyers.
 
If a man hits a woman,
Bad man! No excuse! Arrest him.
 
If a woman hits a man,
“He must have done something to deserve it.”
“She had a reason.”
 
If a man files for divorce,
Bad man.
He must pay.
Take half his wealth, take half his future income, take his kids.
 
If a woman files for divorce,
He must be the bad guy.
He must pay.
Take half his wealth, take half his future income, take his kids.

Women are natural informants. They seek a higher authority to crush anyone who stands in their way.
 
Just like Samson and Delilah.
 
When GOD is a woman’s ultimate authority, she will go to GOD for guidance. But when she serves herself, she will run to the higher earthly powers.
 
This is why women initiate 80% of divorces l, they go straight to the higher authority: cops, lawyers, judges. Delilah went to the Philistines. Modern women go to the state.

Good men are invisible until a woman is worn out.
 
Until the games stop being fun.
Until her looks fade.
Until she needs a husband.
Until she needs a stepfather for her kid.
Until the man she had children with wants nothing to do with her.
 
Early in life, most women choose the wrong men. They ride the excitement until those men chew them up and spit them out.
 
Then suddenly, the “boring” good man she ignored is the prize she’s chasing.
 
The same man she dismissed.
 
The same man she wouldn’t give the time of day.
 
Understand this, the hoe phase is real. If she’s still in it, you’ll never touch her. You’ll only be considered after it’s over, and that could be ten years later.
 
Good men get the leftovers.
 
Bad men get the prime years.
 
Good men inherit the damage.
The insecurities.
The trauma.
The rage.
The children that aren’t theirs.

A hint is encoded information, a clue, often indirect, covert, or a suggestion. 
 
When a woman communicates to a man by hinting, and that man does not decipher that encoded information the way she intended him to, she gets angry and frustrated. In some cases, she punishes that man for not decoding her words the way she intended. She may retaliate by not talking to him at all. Giving him “The Silent Treatment”, which is not a punishment to him as he strives for peace and quiet. 
 
On the flip side, when a man speaks directly to a woman, and she thinks that he’s speaking to her, as she would to him.  She will try to decode what he had just said. When she is confused over his direct statement and she can’t find the non existing, hidden meaning within that statement, she may ask him what does he mean by which he said or she will internalize her feelings while thinking that the man is deliberately trying to confuse or insult her. 
 
In short, a woman will encode her thoughts to a man, try to decode direct statements that was not encoded, and shut down when she is upset. Hinting is not an effective form of communication. Yet she will always say, “Communication is key to a healthy relationship”.

A friend of mine, despite my warnings, got married for the third time. He was 36, she was 24. She had a three-year-old daughter, he had an eleven-year-old son and an eight-year-old daughter. Within months she started the same routine I have seen a hundred times:
 
• “You always do this.”
• “You never do that.”
• “You should do this more.”
• “You shouldn’t do that.”
• “Why do you always…?”
• “You should tell me when you do that.”
• “Why do we always have to…?”
 
It became relentless. He came to me for advice. I told him, “Every time she finds something wrong with you, tell her to go find a perfect man.” He hesitated, afraid she might leave. I told him if she left, his problems with her would be over.
 
He took my advice. Not long after, she called me saying, “Your friend wants to divorce me.” I acted as if I didn’t know why and asked questions to hear her side. Eventually, I said, “So every time you point out something he does wrong, he tells you to go find a perfect man?”
 
Then I laid it out: “This man has a house, two cars, two kids he drives to school every day, and he includes your daughter in his daily life. Yet you find ten problems with him every day?”
 
She paused, then started with, “But I do this because…”
 
I cut her off. “Are you perfect? Do you ask permission for everything you do? Would you want someone nitpicking your every move?”
 
It was like a light switch flipped. She asked, “Do I really do that?”
 
I told her, “I don’t know. I’m not there all day.”
 
I think she finally understood.

He gave his wife a kidney, saved her life, paid every bill, and cared for her until she was healthy again. The moment she recovered, she divorced him, took the children, and demanded more.
 
In court, the judge was stunned. “You want the house, you want him to keep paying the mortgage, and you want child support? This man gave you his kidney.”
 
She answered without shame. “That’s because he loves me. I don’t love him. He’s a great man, I’ve never said he wasn’t, but he’s just not good enough for me. He deserves a woman who truly loves him.”
 
The room went silent. People could not believe what they had heard.
 
She looked around and said, “What? At least I’m being honest.”

As of 2024, total student loan debt sits at $1.6 trillion. Women hold over 67 percent of it. That is $1 trillion in debt owed by women. Over 60 percent of college degrees are now held by women.
 
Many of these women spend their prime years chasing degrees instead of building relationships. They believe status will make them more attractive to men, the same way they view a man’s education as desirable. They think that if they achieve enough status, a high-caliber man will marry them, pay off their student loans, and give them the financial stability to quit working.
 
It is a strategy built on the belief that a man should be the reward for her ambition, and the solution to the debt she chose to create.

Him: What’s wrong?
Her: Nothing.
Him: Are you sure? You seem upset.
Her: Nothing’s wrong. I’m OK.
Him: OK, I was just checking.
 
Her mind: Why didn’t he ask me a third time? I was ready to tell him if he had just asked once more. He must not love me anymore.

Most of the time, women communicate with men through hints. They speak in statements or questions laced with hidden meanings. That is only half the problem. Because she speaks in hints, she assumes your direct statements also contain hidden meanings.
 
She may ask, “Are you going to wear that suit to the event tomorrow?”
 
You, as a man, answer “Yes” or “No.” But the hidden meaning behind her question is disapproval. Your direct answer will be taken as dismissive, proof in her mind that you do not care about her feelings.
 
If you ask her a direct question like, “Do you want to order takeout tonight?” she may interpret it as a hint that you hate her cooking. She will fill in the blanks with the worst possible scenario.
 
Even something as simple as, “Are you going to work tomorrow?” can turn into a trap. She may not see a direct question. She may pause, suspicious, and ask, “What do you mean by that?”
 
I have seen countless interviews where a woman is asked a direct question, yet she answers as if the real question is hidden between the words. It is how she hears the world.

She will complain to her friends and family that you are not giving her what she never asked for. She will be angry that you cannot read her mind. In her mind, if you truly loved her, you would magically know what she wants.
 
She believes telling you directly would ruin the gesture because it would not come from you naturally. So she drops hints. But hints are not communication, they are games.
 
She feels betrayed when you do not give her what she wanted, but the truth is she betrayed herself. She set impossible expectations. Her own refusal to communicate clearly built the wall between you and her, and she will still blame you for it.

The answer is simple but layered. Many men notice that when they are single, women reject them. Once they have a girlfriend, other women suddenly show interest. Several forces may be at work:
 
1. A man carries himself with more confidence when he has a partner.
 
2. Women use social proof, seeing another woman choose him as proof of his value.
 
3. She is drawn to the forbidden nature of pursuing a taken man.
 
4. She sees the girlfriend as a rival and wants to even the score by sleeping with her man.
 
5. She envies the girlfriend’s looks or status and wants to take what she has.
 
6. She sees how well he treats his woman and wants to punish her own man for not doing the same.
 
7. She wants to break them up so she can have him for herself.

I am 58 years old and have my daily coffee at a local restaurant bar. I often chat with the female bartender and sometimes share stories about my past relationships. I could tell she doubted some of them.
 
One day, as I was telling her how long I have been single, a woman in her 50s walked up and handed me her business card. She said, “You’re single? I’m single too. We single people need to stick together. We’re in the same boat.”
 
I took her card and replied, “We are not in the same boat. We are in the same storm.”
 
Her card said she was a branch manager at a bank down the street. Over the next few days she came back to the bar with a laptop, pretending to work while sitting near me. The bartenders, knowing my vision is limited, kept watch. They told me she kept glancing at me, waiting for me to make a move.
 
Every time she left, they said she walked out frustrated.
 
I will not be fooled again.

Women love to claim they are great multitaskers, yet they put relationships on hold to chase degrees and careers. When they are finally ready for a family, they expect a man who can juggle keeping them happy, keeping his customers happy, and keeping his bosses happy, all at the same time, while they focus only on running the household.
 
If they are such great multitaskers, why can they not handle school, work, and spending time with a man who wants to build a family?

Make no mistake. It is not men who choose women, it is women who choose men. A man can chase endlessly, but the final decision is always hers. She selects for use, not for love. If she wants your provisions, she will bait you along. Unless you are rich enough to have women competing for your attention, the power of choice is never yours.
 
She will select the man who fits her current temporary need. She may want citizenship, so she targets a man she can control. She may want housing or a job, so she hunts for a man who will provide it. She may even marry, not out of loyalty, but to secure her position until the man of her real dreams steps into view.
 
A woman never refuses provisions. If you hand them over freely, she will take them without shame. What she extracts always outweighs what she returns. Her loyalty is not to you, it is to her survival. The moment you stop providing is the moment she stops pretending. The moment another man offers more is the moment she pivots without hesitation.
 
Her promises are temporary, her devotion conditional, her respect an illusion. She smiles while she calculates, embraces while she plans, whispers love while her eyes search for the next advantage. A man who forgets this truth sets himself up for betrayal.
 
What she calls partnership is ownership. She does not want balance; she wants control. The man who provides becomes the man who obeys. The man who obeys becomes the man who is discarded. The cycle never ends because her hunger never ends.
 
The provider believes he is loved, but he is only tolerated. He believes he is chosen for who he is, but he is chosen for what he gives. She does not fall for the man; she falls for the benefits. And when those benefits fade, so does her loyalty.
 
The man who understands this refuses to be baited. He does not give blindly. He does not mistake transaction for devotion. He sees her choices for what they are: survival strategies, not love.
 
Once a man gives his strength away, he ceases to be her man. He becomes her resource, her tool, her stepping stone, he’s only a provider to her.

If you were raised by a single mother who filled your head with stories about how badly your father treated her, it may be time to reevaluate. She may have been attracted to that man, whether he was a substance abuser, violent, a con artist, a liar, a cheat, or a criminal. Or she may have exaggerated, lied, or provoked him until he snapped.

Ask her about the man who loved her the most, and she will call him boring. She wanted entertainment, not stability.
 
Ask her about the man she loved the most, and she will say he was abusive and a cheater.
 
Make no mistake, women are often drawn to men who cheat or have the potential to cheat. If her man does not cheat, she may invent stories that he did. This victim narrative gains her sympathy and attracts other men who want to rescue her.
 
Ask her if she would have treated her first boyfriend better if she had known he would be the last man in her life. If she says yes, she admits she mistreated him.
 
Be cautious. Keep your distance or see her only as casual. She will likely never be satisfied.

A hotel maid, while cleaning a suite, found a used condom in the trash. Knowing the occupant was wealthy, she took the contents and inserted them into herself. She became pregnant and sued the man for child support. With DNA results and her story, the courts ruled in her favor and awarded her a large sum.
 
Coaches warn new athletes to dispose of condoms immediately and properly after use.
 
What would happen if there were a law blocking any woman from collecting child support unless she was married to the father or if the DNA did not match?
 
And what should happen to the child and the wife if the child she gave birth to is not her husband’s?

Home wrecking is when a woman deliberately sabotages a relationship for her own gain. She may call your girlfriend or wife and lie about your supposed infidelity. The sad truth is this tactic often works because many women will take another woman’s word without investigation. They will react emotionally based on the shock of the accusation. Your partner may not even tell you about the anonymous call from this manipulative Jezebel.
 
Has your wife or girlfriend ever accused you of cheating out of nowhere?
 
Possible reasons for these sudden accusations:
 
1. She is angry at you for something you said or did at work or in your social circle.
 
2. She sees you as a great catch and wants you and your partner to break up so she can step in and console you.
 
3. Your girlfriend or wife angered her.
 
4. She is jealous and wants your relationship to fail because you have something she does not.

Today’s woman wants a personal slave.
 
Provide me food.
Provide me shelter.
Provide me clothes.
Provide me protection.
Provide me attention.
Provide me compliments.
Provide me entertainment.
Provide me luxuries.
Provide me travel.
Provide me adventure.
Provide me drama.
Provide me jewelry.
Provide me happiness.
Provide me emotional care.
 
Make me feel special.
Make me feel comfortable.
Make me happy.
 
Commit to me on my terms, but I will never commit to you.
Love me and honor me, but I will never put in the effort to love you.
Love me.
Protect me.
Provide for me.
Praise me.
Fight for me even when I am wrong.
 
I will measure, question, and challenge your love for me, but you are never allowed to do the same.
 
Be taller than me.
Be stronger than me.
Be faster than me.
Be richer than me.
Be older than me.
Be nice when I demand it.
Never be too nice.
Be strong when I need strength.
Be sensitive when I want sensitivity.
 
Be my doctor.
Be my lawyer.
Be my therapist.
 
Pay my rent.
Pay my bills.
Pay me attention.
Pay me compliments.
 
And if you do all that, I owe you nothing. You cannot tell me anything.
 
Listen to my problems but do not solve them unless I present them in the way I want them solved.
Do not tell me your problems, I will see you as weak and lose respect for you.
I will use your words to shame and humiliate you in public.
 
Tiptoe around my insecurities from my past toxic men I chose over you.
If you have insecurities from your past, that is your fault. I will ignore them, mock them, and dismiss them.
 
I want a leader. Lead me only where I want to go. Lead me how I want to be led. Lead me when I want leadership. Never guide me where you want me to go. If you fail to lead me exactly as I demand, I will take control and leave you.
 
I will never forgive your mistakes, but you better forgive mine.
 
If I raise my status with degrees, income, or attention, you must raise yours too or I will leave.
I will only accept you if you are six feet tall or taller, if you make six figures or more, if you have six pack abs. You must accept me no matter how I look, how I act, or how much I make.
 
They say relationships are hard work, so you must work hard to understand me and make me happy.
I do not know what makes me happy, but you better find it.
 
I will not cook for you, provide me a chef and an assistant.
I will not clean for you, provide me a maid.
 
If you give me more than any woman in history, it might still not be enough.
Work more.
Work better.
Work faster.
Work longer.
 
If you do everything I demand, you are weak.
If you do not, I do not want you.
 
If I lie, it is your fault for believing me.
If I swindle you, it is your fault for trusting me.
If I cheat, it is your fault for choosing me.
 
I will speak in hints and expect you to know exactly what I mean because communication is key.
I will never tell you what I want, but I will tell everyone you are not giving it to me.
 
I will find your weaknesses and exploit them. If you fall for my manipulation, you are too weak, so I will keep trying.
 
If I cheat, you must forgive me.
If I even imagine you cheated, I will destroy you, take everything, and keep your children from you.
 
Be better in bed than the hundred men before you.
Take care of me and my children from other men who failed me.
Give me everything I want because I am worth it.
 
I will insult, guilt, cry, manipulate, complain, and nag until you do what I want. I will never simply ask.
 
I am allowed to hit you, but if you touch me, I will have you arrested.
 
If you please me and my kids, I will still divorce you, take your home, your pension, your money, and more. You will pay child support for children I will withhold from you and alimony because I want it. This will prove I am independent and do not need a man.
 
I am the prize. Get on your knee and offer yourself to me. But others can still take me from you at any time.
 
I am not like other girls.
 
And remember, we are equal.

Most modern women want a man on her self-defined level or higher. This level is vague, subjective, and changes from woman to woman, but it almost always comes down to his income, status, height, and looks.
 
For the sake of this point, say she rates herself as a level 5. She will demand a man who is a 6 or higher, factoring in whatever components she decides matter at the moment.
 
The very fact that she seeks a man on a higher level is a red flag, and here is why:
 
1. What happens if she raises herself to a 7 in her mind and decides he is still the same? In her eyes, he is falling behind.
 
2. What happens when time passes and she decides his level is now lower than hers?
 
3. What if his level rises to a 10 or 12 while she drops to a 3 or 4?
 
4. Do you think she will stay if she believes she is above him?
 
5. Do you think her self-assessment is inflated?
 
6. Do you think her assessment of your value is accurate?
 
Regardless of her perception, you will still be expected to pay all the bills, open her doors, and kiss her feet while she saves her money for herself. You will be her personal servant, expected to fight and die for her, while she sees it as beneath her to even get you a glass of water.
 
Women like this say things like, “He needs to keep up with me” and “I might give him a chance.” Imagine a woman thinking she is offering you the privilege of becoming her servant.
 
The truth is she is not looking for a man to love, honor, or respect. She is looking for a man to raise her status and income while looking down on him as her provider and protector. A man should never provide for or protect someone who uses him. A man should provide for and protect only those who respect him.